Avoiding the Common Causes of Divorce

Funny and ridiculous as it may seem, but some people will tell you that the main reason why couples divorce is their marriage. Some couples who may have lived together prior to getting married will soon discover that they were better off together as a live-in couple, rather than the married couple that they are now. Strange, but not that difficult to understand.

There is also the misconception that children of divorced parents become better at their own marriages and very seldom end up divorced. The truth is most children who witnessed their parents’ divorce may also end up divorced themselves. Although they may vow not to make the same mistakes their parents have done in the past, some people who are children of divorced parents seem to have developed an apathy towards it, that they no longer find it a threat which needs to be avoided at all costs.

There are many other possible reasons why a couple would end up in divorce, but the most common one seems to be the lack of communication between partners. It is not rare to hear a wife blame her husband for focusing too much on his career, that he spends very little time at home with her and the children. In the same manner, you would often hear some husbands blame their wives for neglecting him and pouring all her time to the children and maybe her career. Yet, all these things can be avoided if the couple has taken the time to sit down together and discuss things in a loving way.

Communication is the binding element in a marriage. Some couples never really master the art of communicating their needs and desires to each other.

One of the most severe causes of divorce is if abuse constantly happens in the relationship. The word “abuse” is so general, and may happen in different ways. It may be verbal abuse, emotional, physical or sexual abuse, or even the abuse of toxic substances such as alcohol and drugs. If one partner is abusive, while the other one simply accepts the abuse, there is a need to consult professional advice, otherwise, this kind of relationship is bound to end in divorce.

Sexual incompatibility and financial issues also rank high among the common causes of divorce. The couple may have different views on sexual intimacy which may result to one partner being dissatisfied with the relationship and possibly end up having an affair. The other most common stressful area in a marriage is the way each partner spends money. People will always have different views when it comes to earning and spending cash, and if the couple has not met a common ground when it comes to finances, then most likely a divorce will happen.

There are other causes of divorce such as when the couple got married too soon. They may suddenly feel that the marriage is too restrictive because they are still very young. Sometimes different views on discipline for children may also be a big factor.

The best way to prevent a marriage from ending up in divorce is to address the problem as soon as it erupts, and not to wait for the time when the damage is too huge to be repaired. Keeping the communication open is the key to avoiding all other causes of divorce, and if couples can just be open to each other, then there will be lesser incidences of divorce.